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A Girl’s Love Language
Understanding is an art — We must learn to become artists to build strong bonds with our partners
No two human beings in the world are the same. As such we cannot generalize everything and put everybody together in one big bubble and say that’s how people behave. It will be both wrong and insensitive.
We must learn people in their singular peculiarity. Who they are individually has a lot to do with their personal experiences, upbringing, habits they picked along the way, their relationship with people, and how they perceive the world around them. That is why I did not call it girls love language but a girl’s love language.
For a girl who’s never gotten anything for free, grew up with abusive parents, or from a broken home, and had to work to earn her parents affection, love, and support will certainly be different from the girl who grew up in a healthy home with all the affection and support she needed.
These two people will have different mindsets and opinions about life and what one calls love will be different from what the other understands as love.
That is why you have to know a person to love that person. Sometimes, the reason why it looks like you’ve done everything and your love is not enough could just be because you are loving…
